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The Teaching Home E-Mail Newsletter #45
Information, Inspiration, and Encouragement
August 12, 2003 / Cindy Short and Sue Welch, editors
Table of Contents
How To Establish Child Training, Discipline,
and Family Responsibilities
10 Elements of Child Training
Child Training Resources
7 Ways To Teach Responsibility through Chores
Recommended Resources
Northstar Academy
The Times and Scriptures
Keystone National Highschool
The Teaching Home Back Issues
Sunny Side Up: Humorous Anecdote
Greetings,
One of the most beneficial preparations that you can make
for your home school this year is to establish, or reaffirm,
basic child training, discipline, and family responsibilities.
Our loving Lord will give the wisdom and strength of will
needed for this task if we call upon Him for help!
Cordially,
Pat, Sue, Heather, Holly, and Brian Welch
The Teaching Home is a 22-year-old, home-school family business.
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How To Establish Child Training, Discipline,
and Responsibilities
One of the saddest reasons given for not home schooling is
that the parents cannot work with their own children.
A child who has been properly trained and disciplined will
respect his parents and respond to their teaching.
Gaining their child's respect and obedience through proper
relationships, discipline, training, and example should be the
parents' top priority, whether or not they are home schooling.
Home schooling can provide both the incentive and the optimum
setting to accomplish this.
10 Elements of Child Training
1. Know and Teach what God Says.
* Parents need to know that God expects them to train and
discipline their children. "Chasten you son while there is hope
. . . ." (Proverbs 19:18). ". . . bring them up in the training
and admonition of the Lord" (Ephesians 6:4).
* Children need to know that God expects them to honor and obey
their parents. "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for
this is right. Honor your father and mother . . . ." (Ephesians
6:1-2).
* Thoroughly teach your child God's Word. "All Scripture is
inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for
correction, for training in righteousness" (II Timothy 3:16).
2. Require Obedience.
* Get your child's attention before giving him an instruction.
* Your child should meet your eyes and answer, "Yes,
Mother/Father."
* Require instant, willing obedience.
* Consistency is the key. Your children must know you mean what
you say.
* Affirmation should follow obedience and cooperation.
* Negative consequences are appropriate when a child disobeys
or rebels.
3. Set Limits.
* Explain to your child that the limits you place on him are for
his care, protection, and training.
* As your child matures, increase his freedoms within safe
boundaries.
4. Make Clear Rules.
* Make sure your child knows the basic rules of your home.
* Require your child to remember and obey these rules without
supervision. This will build the habits of right behavior, and
develop self-control.
5. Explain Moral Principles.
* Use Scripture to show your child the principles behind your
rules. This helps children internalize and adopt these values
for their own.
6. Examine Motives.
* Help your child to understand his true motives (e.g., anger
shows an area of our life that is not yielded to God). This can
lead to a conviction of sin and ultimately to
repentance and salvation.
7. Lead Your Child to Salvation.
* Your child's eternal salvation is the most important aim of
Christian training.
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* Only after your child is born again, can God's Spirit within
produce true godly character.
8. Inspire Your Child to Dedicate His Life to God.
* Communicate and demonstrate your own love and dedication to the
Lord.
* Daily study of God's Word, solid Bible preaching, avoidance of
worldly pleasures and influences, and godly examples can all
inspire your child to dedicate his own life to God.
* Your child will then seek to please God and so receive his
parents' instruction for the Lord's sake as well as out of love
for you.
9. Stimulate Initiative.
Challenge your children to develop the inner motivation that
leads to taking initiative in:
* Meeting others' needs.
* Seeking wisdom and knowledge from God's Word, parents, and
every source of truth.
10. Aim for Christlikeness.
* Hold up Christ's example of love, purity, humility, obedience,
and service.
* Read and memorize Scriptures about Christ's character.
* This final goal prepares our children to train their own
children, minister in the church, and be effective ambassadors
for Christ.
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Child Training Resources
Nov./Dec. 1999 Teaching Home Back Issue
with a 13- page Special Section on "Family Relationships."
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I just finished reading the Nov./Dec. 1999 issue
of The Teaching Home, and it was an answer to
prayer! Thank you for this issue on Family
Relationships. It encouraged me in areas that
I already knew I wanted to implement.
The most important area, however, was the
specific outline of ideas and Bible verses that I
actually carry out straight from the page.
The articles gave me the biblical plan for our
children's relationships that I have been searching
for. I plan to use the included Bible verses for our
memory work, the ideas behind them for our
devotions, and then follow up by admonishment
with the verses when needed. -- Karen B., Virginia
"What the Bible Says about Child Training"
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Hints on Child Training by H. Clay Trumbull.<BR>
Unabridged audio book. Fortified with common sense and
Biblical wisdom, Trumbull's straightforward guide has
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Online Articles
* "Using the Word of God to Lay the Foundation for Family
Relations and Child Training" by Katherine Johnson.
http://www.teachinghome.com/supplement/novdec99/foundation.cfm
* "Rules for Maintaining Order" by Joy Marie Dunlap.
http://www.teachinghome.com/supplement/novdec99/rules.cfm
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7 Ways To Teach Family Responsibility through Chores
Each member of the family can and should have
responsibilities that make a contribution to the success of the
whole family.
We can use chores as double duty -- to keep our homes
running efficiently and to teach our children responsibility.
While it is never too late, the younger you start training
your children to work, the better.
1. First, Teach Your Children what God Says about Work.
Do a Bible study using the references listed. They provide
positive and negative examples and motivations to work.
Genesis 1:26, 28; 2:15; 3:19; Exodus 20:9; Psalm 128:2; Proverbs
10:4, 5; 12:11; 13:4; 14:23; 20:13; 26:13-16; 28:19; 31:10-31;
Ecclesiastes 5:12; 9:10; Acts 20:34, 35; Ephesians 4:28; I
Thessalonians 4:11, 12; II Thessalonians 3:10-13.
2. Set High Expectations & Attitudes.
Be aware that you may unconsciously pass on to your child
your mentality, or set of presuppositions, about work.
* Wrong: Children should only play and please themselves
throughout their childhood.
* Wrong: Children cannot help but be selfish and unhelpful.
* Wrong: Work is an undesirable activity and is a punishment.
* Correct: Everyone should contribute to the well-being of all,
no matter what their ages and ability levels are.
* Correct: Work can be fun. We can make a game out of putting
things away and helping.
* Correct: It is a privilege to have the ability to work.
3. Teach Your Child How To Work.
* Take time to teach your child how to do a specific chore by
explaining and modeling it for him and then observing him do it.
* Make chore cards with the name of the chore on one side and the
necessary steps and cleaning agents on the back.
4. Build a Ramp of Responsibility.
Your child will go from being completely dependent at birth
to being responsible for his own family in about 20 years. Make
a gradual ramp for him to climb by gradually assigning more
responsibility as he matures.
* Assign reasonable chores for each person in your family and
specify when the work is to be done.
* A chart or card system is very helpful.
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* Toddlers can pick up toys and clothes, as well as carry things
for you.
* Young children can do simple chores such as set the table, make
a bed, help dry or put away dishes, fill a pet's dish, clear his
own dishes after a meal, and fold and put away laundry.
* Older children and teens can do laundry and dishes, do lawn
work, cook, and care for, or help teach, younger siblings.
5. Work Together.
Children learn best from parents who are closely involved
with them in work, play, conversation, study, and all of life.
* Young children especially love to be with you and work with
you.
* Do chores together at the same time to avoid a feeling of
resentment when one child works while others do not.
* Learn to have a good time working together, listening to music,
singing, or having someone read to you while you work.
* Family goals with family rewards encourage harmony, teamwork,
and responsibility.
6. Provide Incentives.
While acknowledging that some work is expected of each
family member to maintain the home, incentives can also give a
little extra motivation.
* Systems that include both positive and negative incentives
emphasize responsibility in all areas of life.
* Change systems of incentives from time to time to keep interest
up.
* Award payment (or points) for responsibilities reached and
fines (or decreased points) for those not done.
* Use an "Earn Me" system for extra work. Tape a coin to a card
describing the job for someone to claim.
7. Train Children To Go the Second Mile.
Instead of having problems of "fairness," teach your child
to exemplify a spirit of love in serving others.
* Ask your children to fill in for one another when one child is
sick.
* Encourage your children to help each other with their work.
* Discourage an attitude of "that's not my job."
* Help your children find ways to volunteer to help others in
need.
Many of the above ideas were excerpted from an online
article by Joy Marie Dunlap. Read the complete article at:
http://www.teachinghome.com/supplement/summer00/training.cfm
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Sunny Side Up: Learning Right from Wrong
I had been quizzing Ethan on the concept of left and right
when his younger brother, Daniel, piped up and asked, "Is this my
right foot, Mom?"
After I praised him for being correct, he held up his other foot
and said, "Then this is my wrong foot!"
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God Loves You.
Because we were separated from God by sin, Jesus Christ died
in our place, then rose to life again. If we trust Jesus Christ
as our Savior and Lord, He will give us eternal life.
"For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that
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